I have written on Romans 9 before. I want you to notice, Paul did not say God did this. He said WHAT IF God did this. All he's saying here is if God did this, we could not charge God with wrong because God is always right. That's where Calvin got it wrong. He read it without the "What If."

But that is only the first part of his argument. He goes on to describe God's plan of salvation, different ways it appears to come up short, all the while acknowledging our sin demands judgment while God's grace wants to pardon. He then concludes with "For God has bound everyone over to disobedience so that he may have mercy on them all" (Rom 11:32 NIV).

So that he might have mercy on them all. How can God be perfectly just, i.e., punish us for our crimes, and perfectly merciful, i.e., forgive us our sins? We may experience punishment, but in the end mercy wins over wrath. I call this modified Calvinism. There is predestination, but not as a justification for Hell. The destiny, after justice is satisfied, is forgiveness and restoration.